Today is the first day of the “7 Days of Love” series I am participating in with a few of my blogger friends!!! This series will be written by 4 Married Ladies, All SAHM, All Different Stories…please follow us through the next 7 days!
I tried to start working on these prompts early because I knew the time would sneak up on my quickly! However, when I started the first day I had kind of a
hard time figuring out what
“Marriage has Taught Me”
so here goes…
What Works for Others May Not Work for You…
Like clockwork…when you announce you are getting married everyone comes with advice, majority of the time it is unsolicited advice but nonetheless you take it in no matter if you use it or not. With us I noticed that we would talk about advice others had given us and from there we would say if we were “on it or not”
I remember someone telling us that marriage is different from courtship, and honestly in our relationship its NOT! Darrick and I still treat each other like we are dating, and I hope it ALWAYS stays that way! Yes we deal with real life issues but when we were dating after a year of being together and knowing we were going to get married we started treating each other in that manner. We dealt with EVERYTHING together from Money to Family!
Getting Accustomed to Your Partners Habits…
Initially Darrick and I had not planned to live together before getting married, however, since I was pregnant and was due 3 months before our wedding I moved in when I was 8 months pregnant so I would be settled when the baby was born. I used to spend lots of time over his house but it felt different once I started living there. I guess I started noticing things that I had never noticed he did when we were dating…like he hits the ground running in the morning (he gets up cleaning and moving at a very fast pace) and I am the total opposite. I move slower…and it takes me a minute to get everything processing and moving. He couldn’t understand why I wasn’t like him, and I couldn’t understand why he was like that in general! HA! Now we kiss each other and say Good Morning and we don’t worry about it…
Actually we are have taken on some of each others ways…I get up moving because its the only time I have to myself before the little one is up and he moves a tad bit slower! He will even stay in the bed for a little bit and relax!
Communication is EVERYTHING!
No matter what the topic is you have to communicate! This is the only way you stay on the same page with each other! There have been many times when I look back on things and say if we weren’t on the same page this would really have us all messed up! Sometimes I feel like I have talked about things multiple times, but its better to have talked about it than to make a decision and the other person is not on board with the plan. This is how our house stays together and unified! No matter how big or small it is…Darrick and I will tell someone in a heartbeat let me talk to my wife or my husband before we give an answer!
I have learned a lot about Myself…
Overall I feel like I have learned a lot about myself while being married! Seems like I would have learned this stuff prior to being married…but not me! LOL! I have learned what love means and feels like! I have learned that for my husband and family there is nothing that I would or wouldn’t do for them. I never knew that someone else’s happiness would mean so much to me. I have also realized how strong I am; we have been through a lot together in the short period of time we have been together…but no matter what I will not let anyone or anything interfere with what we have.
Importance of Laughing even during the Tough Times…
Darrick always tells me if I am still laughing and smiling at him than he is doing his job! We are always laughing or finding something funny, even if we don’t laugh out we can look at each other and make a face and understand how each other is feeling. In our relationship there have been a lot of good times, but since becoming parents there have also been tough times, but even during those tough times we have been able to find something to smile or laugh at as a comfort to each other.
What has Marriage Taught You???
Be sure to read the other post in the series…
Tia from The Chic SAHM
Teems from BabyTeems
Mrs Dre from So She Writes
Make sure you follow along all week long!!!
