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I have read on many Mommy blogs, Wedding Blogs, and general Life Blogs about how people always receive unwanted advice when it comes to major life events. Seems like lately no matter where I go there is always someone giving me advice that I didn’t particularly ask for. Sometimes I am getting wedding/marriage advice, or advice about Emma and frankly I’m just tired of hearing about it. I get upset with the advice with Emma because has a cleft lip/palate and she was in the hospital for the first 50 days of her life, so many times the advice that is given is advice that may pertain to a baby but not necessarily a baby with a cleft lip/palate. Emma has her own “normal” and we are totally fine with that, it makes our normal different from the average parents but that’s the only thing we know, seeing as though this is our first child! This is a learning process with her, and it would be a learning process if she didnt have a cleft lip/palate…so let us figure it out! Let us decide what our parenting style is going to be, or how we handle different situations! Darrick and I are VERY involved in this entire process of Emma having a cleft lip/palate so we have a good handle on what is being done and what is best for her! We are constantly talking to doctors and nurses (we play 50 questions with them to make sure they are giving us the same information each time), I talk to other moms in a Facebook Group and Baby Center group who have been through some of the same things we are going through, so we are always researching whats going on to make sure we are doing the best for our child. So it basically comes down to Emma being me and Darrick’s child and if you don’t like what is going on with her…oh well…but it doesn’t give you the right to tell us what you think we should be doing!
Also the wedding advice, we are here now in the home stretch, I’m sorry but I don’t care what you did, what you would’ve done, or what you are doing in the future with someone else. This is what is going to happen at “Carissa & Darrick’s Wedding” and that’s the end of it! I hate to sound mean/or angry (I’m really not)…but I’m just over the the advice and being questioned about MY CHILD, MY WEDDING, or MY LIFE!
If I ask you for your advice, give me some (and still its at my own discretion on if I take the advice or not)…but if I don’t leave me and my family alone!
Okay enough of me ranting…has this happened to anyone else with a major life event???
